This is the second in a six-week challenge series related to speaking life – improving our environment through the thoughts we foster and the words we express.
Do you remember the last time someone paid you a genuine compliment? How did that make you feel?
Maybe someone said that they liked your shirt or that you looked very dapper or complimented your driving or applauded a skill that you have. We all have a similar experience when receiving a compliment – it makes us feel better (and maybe a little awkward).
When you considered my question, did a different thought immediately go through your head instead of, “what was the last compliment I received”? Maybe something like, “wow, I haven’t received a compliment in a long time.” If so, the spiral of negative self-talk is likely to launch from that depressing thought like Elon Musk’s latest SpaceX rocket.
So how do we prevent that? I don’t mean, how do we get more compliments — not really … OK, maybe a little bit but my point is, how do we increase the culture or atmosphere of our environment to make it more conducive to compliments? Easy, we give them away. That’s right, compliments violate the rule of hoarding — the more you give, the more you’re likely to receive.
Compliments violate the rule of hoarding — the more you give, the more you’re likely to receive
We all like compliments, so why not plant a garden of them today. This edition of Speak Life’s challenge is to compliment at least five different people this week. I don’t mean giving them back-handed compliments like, “you’re pretty smart for someone who graduated from — (insert rival school name)”. What I am talking about is providing each of them with a true compliment on a quality that you observe in that individual.
Once you’ve done that, I’d love to know what you experienced in response to giving others the compliments. Did you get a sense of happiness from seeing another’s eyes light up in response to the compliment? Did you increase your awareness of the qualities and uniqueness in others by looking for a quality to compliment? Or did you maybe experience an improvement in your overall perspective as a result of focusing on identifying things to compliment others on?
Kind words are like honey — sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.
Proverbs 16:24 (NIV)
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